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 Post subject: Wheelien's First Log
PostPosted: Mon May 23, 2016 3:12 pm 
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Day 1: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3ZLLZlHrB-Eio
"You got me looking like a hot mess, but I feel the fucking best."


Hey guys, new to the community but no stranger to WD. I had my first couple in high school when I was in a relationship with a girl that was pretty hands-off, so I found myself pretty frustrated in my day-to-day. I can remember a couple I had in high school, and one or two I had after we broke up when I was in college, but none really since then.

A lot has changed since high school. I've since come out and am learning more about my sexual identity. I'm in medical school and busy and stressed as I've ever been. And I've recently begun dealing with some mental health issues. Amidst all the turbulence, I think I've forgotten how to relax and let myself go. So I'm embarking on this journey both as a personal challenge and to get to know myself a little better.

I would describe my MB habits as oscillating between 1-2x daily and 1-2x every other day, depending on what my work load is like. It's become pretty routine for me, and only rarely do I overdo it (at least not like I did in high school hehehe). My goal is to just go until I get one, or until 6 weeks (and my current rotation) are over.

I will try a modified AB approach that combines no auto-stimulation with permissive allo-stimulation. That means no MTO, no watching porn, no MSO, really nothing that I could use to bring myself over the edge. I will allow the continuation of certain dating apps, and permit other people to bring me to orgasm (I'm young and single; it'd be a waste not to). But even on the apps, I will avoid soliciting or ruminating over hardcore media.

I'll conclude by saying that this ends Day 1 of my fast and I'm glad to join this community. I hope I can grown and learn and enjoy myself along the way. Cheers!


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 Post subject: Re: Wheelien's First Log
PostPosted: Tue May 24, 2016 1:02 pm 
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Day 2: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=saP3PtRkULrw
"Thought I was more than the afterlife..."

It's Day 2 and I feel a little frustrated. I have come pretty close to watching porn, which has set a number of mental habits in motion. I really gravitate towards putting myself in a position to be vulnerable to that kind of temptation. I guess that's the addiction side of PMO.

Using the dating apps has been a challenge, not because I am getting a lot of attention or responses. Instead, it's more the fact that no one has responded to me in a couple days, and most of my conversations/meet-ups are few and far between. So I find myself paradoxically spending more time using them, hoping to get some sort of message. Again, I get stuck thinking about those things and that usually leads to that yearning.

In the past, I've been most successful when my mood has been positive and when I am self-regulating and on a schedule. The last few days have been kind of free-form, and I'm just coming up from a depressive episode, so I think once the dust settles things will get easier. Until then, trudging along.


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 Post subject: Re: Wheelien's First Log
PostPosted: Wed May 25, 2016 9:09 am 
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goodluck with ABing bro and welcome to the forum. It can be challenging at first and very frustrating. The main thing is getting to a plateau and being in a place that feels like your in more control. It gets alot better and things feel much better after about day 7 i found.

Some find the chatroom here can also be helpful

Keep it up man (pun intended) :P


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 Post subject: Re: Wheelien's First Log
PostPosted: Wed May 25, 2016 2:55 pm 
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Donatello1990, thanks for the encouraging message. I was just about to come here and delete my post and be done with it. But it was really great to see someone actually cared.

Shortly after my entry yesterday, I met up with an individual for a consensual sexual encounter, which was very quick because I felt very on edge. I almost felt desperate to get off yesterday, and it was a bit of torture knowing that I couldn't do it myself. Incidentally enough, I left for the encounter after I had already gone to bed and was then alerted by a notification of interest.

Day 3 has been a bit turbulent. I was a little stressed with work, and talked to my therapist about stuff that's been going on. I'm seeing my other therapist tomorrow, so you can imagine how emotionally taxing today has been and tomorrow will be. I was prepared to just cave and self-medicate with MB.

I didn't, and I feel better mentally and trapped physically. Knowing how easy it would be to feel good now at the expense of how I would feel later is a bit torturesome. But I think taking control of this will help me with other areas of my life.


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 Post subject: Re: Wheelien's First Log
PostPosted: Thu May 26, 2016 12:55 pm 
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Day 4 has been pretty good all in all. I was off today, and rather than stay in and do nothing, I filled my morning and afternoon with activities. I got a lot done that I'd been putting off, and was surprisingly productive, so the kept my imagination from wandering. I'm sort of getting back on an exercise schedule, so I think a routine is forming and that might coincide with some healthier habits filling my free time.

My appointment today went okay, though it felt a little like my therapist was rushing me. Aside from last week, I have been dealing with things a lot better now than when we first started meeting. And even then, I was able to pull myself up from that with little consequence. So I can understand that he's probably reaching the limits of his help for me. This is good because I think moving forward things won't be so unsteady. Kinda feels like I'm being trusted now to handle those stormy seasons with the techniques I've been taught.


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 Post subject: Re: Wheelien's First Log
PostPosted: Fri May 27, 2016 2:15 pm 
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Day 5, still going strong. I was fortunate to have a friend's birthday to celebrate, so I wasn't home much. I think spending more time in the company of friends will be an important key to keeping clean while I await a WD.

In terms of sensation, I haven't noticed too much of a difference in the frequency or quality of my erections. I feel a visceral urge to just rub one out, and I feel a virile sensation in my nether region. But nothing heavy or sagging. Just reminding me he's there. Don't worry, buddy, haven't forgot about you.


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 Post subject: Re: Wheelien's First Log
PostPosted: Sat May 28, 2016 1:48 pm 
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Day 6, nearing one week. I've been a little surprised at how strong I've desired to just break down and MB, and how equally strong I've been able to counter those urges with just willpower. I've approached each moment as a new decision to be made, treating every temptation as an individual event that has its own context and struggles and its own opportunity for improvement.

In the past, when I had attempted AB, I would allow myself to drift closer and closer to just pleasuring myself. I would watch porn or start touching myself or having strong visualizations, always telling myself I'd know when to stop in the future. But now, I'm treating each one of those segments of time that could lead to those driftings as the beginning and end of the challenge; if I can resist these five seconds, that's five more seconds to look forward to fighting. I guess just working on goal manifestation through positive and disciplined thinking.

I guess in terms of particular sensations that are new today, I am feeling a tension from just above my pubic bone all the way up to the front points of my hips on both sides. If I suck in my abdomen, I get a very visceral rush where this tension radiates to my flank and my back and my junk and my thighs. I can relax and then suck in again and renew this sequence. It is both enjoyable and reassuring.


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 Post subject: Re: Wheelien's First Log
PostPosted: Sat May 28, 2016 7:57 pm 
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Keep that focus going man.
It sounds like the muscle contractions are those people due as core exercises or the PC muscle exercises to strengthen the pelvic floor.
The PC muscles exercises can help with strength in general down there and with ejaculation force. From what I understand. Anyways your doing great and keep it up.

And keep us posted


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 Post subject: Re: Wheelien's First Log
PostPosted: Sun May 29, 2016 3:02 pm 
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My first abstinent week, done. Day 7 was quite lonely and had the potential to be a deal breaker. But I got out of the house, ran errands and exercised and spent time with friends, so my mind was a bit more distracted.

Otherwise, nothing big to report. I think I'm out of the do-this-out-of-habit woods, but I still have cravings that enter my conscious ravenously. But instantaneous resistance has been a helpful strategy.

On to week 2!


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 Post subject: Re: Wheelien's First Log
PostPosted: Sun May 29, 2016 6:47 pm 
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Well done on the first week mate! It should start to get easier now that you've broken the usual cycle you seemed to have. Keep it up and lets see you make it through to the end of week 2. You seem to be doing great and sounds like the distractions keeping you busy are a big help.


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 Post subject: Re: Wheelien's First Log
PostPosted: Mon May 30, 2016 10:40 pm 
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frosty wrote:
Well done on the first week mate! It should start to get easier now that you've broken the usual cycle you seemed to have. Keep it up and lets see you make it through to the end of week 2. You seem to be doing great and sounds like the distractions keeping you busy are a big help.


Thanks for the encouragement, frosty. I definitely still feel the urges, but the habitual nature is gone. I won't say it's getting easier since the last thing I want to do is get complacent. But I will say I'm more aware of my triggers and how to avoid them.

I missed logging for Day 8 since I was so exhausted, but I am okay with that. I was home alone for most of the day, but I worked and talked to friends and focused on spending my time wisely. I think before it might have seemed obvious for me to spend that time MB, whereas now it wasn't really much of an option. I hung out with friends later and played board games and watched a movie (as juvenile as that sounds), and it was quite nice being away from my own thoughts and being engaged in that for the evening. I don't want to think of the time I spend with friends as a "distraction" from jerking off; I'll call it a "healthy alternative".

MB is potato chips.
Friendship is popcorn.


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 Post subject: Re: Wheelien's First Log
PostPosted: Tue May 31, 2016 1:24 pm 
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End of Day 9 and I'm still in it. I did have an adult encounter today, but as per the rules I did not bring myself across the finish line; I didn't have to. ;)

I've had a few moments today when I felt like I could just do it, both before and after the encounter, but I've decided to take up on old hobby, so I'm hoping that will keep my hands busy. If anything special comes from said hobby, I'll post a pic here :)


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 Post subject: Re: Wheelien's First Log
PostPosted: Tue May 31, 2016 3:41 pm 
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What is said hobby?

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 Post subject: Re: Wheelien's First Log
PostPosted: Wed Jun 01, 2016 1:35 pm 
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Day 10 now, woo! Officially in double digits!

I will say that although I don't feel the physical compulsion to MB as much as I used to when I would everyday, the mental desire to feel pleasure is still there, so I always remember how easy it would be if I did it. It gets a little crazy sometimes and I actually start to touch myself. But it's never gotten so far that I've made a mistake. Just I guess keeping an eye on how much self-restraint I can have will be important.

collegein04 wrote:
What is said hobby?

I won't give that away just yet. ;) I will say two things about it.
1. It is incredibly boring and one of the gayer things that I do.
2. I used to do it as a kid and it's something I've missed for a while.

I have a couple hands-on hobbies actually. Maybe I can post some pics of both as I progress. Ideas....


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 Post subject: Re: Wheelien's First Log
PostPosted: Thu Jun 02, 2016 2:01 am 
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wheelien wrote:
collegein04 wrote:
What is said hobby?

I won't give that away just yet. ;) I will say two things about it.
1. It is incredibly boring and one of the gayer things that I do.
2. I used to do it as a kid and it's something I've missed for a while.

I have a couple hands-on hobbies actually. Maybe I can post some pics of both as I progress. Ideas....


Now I REALLY wanna know!

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 Post subject: Re: Wheelien's First Log
PostPosted: Thu Jun 02, 2016 1:22 pm 
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Day 11 and I'm chugging along. I had another adult encounter today, but was not the executor of the deed, if you know what I mean. However I do notice how much less personal the action of an orgasm is when the only time I have them are when I'm with someone else. That person can't understand how I feel, and they can only estimate from the feedback I give them. I find it frustrating at times because this is a moment that will no longer be mine alone. I don't know if that's selfish or odd or whatever, but I miss the nuance of being able to "touch myself".

Along the same token, given the fact that I've haven't had intervals that were too long between releases, I am starting to wonder if I'm hurting my chances at having a WD soon. I'm not committed 100% to AB, so my body may not recognize a need to auto-regulate. I think what it comes down to is how important the act of having a WD is to me--sexually and emotionally.


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 Post subject: Re: Wheelien's First Log
PostPosted: Fri Jun 03, 2016 1:43 pm 
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Day 12, not much to report. I've thought a lot about what I wrote yesterday. I don't disagree with it, but it is a bit of a sobering realization. It makes you wonder, if WD are the way God intended us to release, then his intent with giving us the ability to take pleasure in manual stimulation was really for us to be with someone else.

That probably makes no sense.


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 Post subject: Re: Wheelien's First Log
PostPosted: Fri Jun 03, 2016 4:31 pm 
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wheelien wrote:
Day 12, not much to report. I've thought a lot about what I wrote yesterday. I don't disagree with it, but it is a bit of a sobering realization. It makes you wonder, if WD are the way God intended us to release, then his intent with giving us the ability to take pleasure in manual stimulation was really for us to be with someone else.

That probably makes no sense.


Makes sense to me. I agree with you. He wants it to feel good and has given us the ability to help others feel good too.

Besides, if orgasms didn't feel good, nobody would ever have sex, and we'd quickly die out as a species.

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 Post subject: Re: Wheelien's First Log
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collegein04 wrote:
Makes sense to me. I agree with you. He wants it to feel good and has given us the ability to help others feel good too.

Besides, if orgasms didn't feel good, nobody would ever have sex, and we'd quickly die out as a species.

So if that's the case, my conflict is in deciding if I want to give up a part of my personhood and lose that experience that only I could generate, or do I forsake the path that was supposedly our destiny as a species? I'm just playing devil's advocate, literally I guess.

Day 13, not much new. Can't over emphasize how important time with friends is to AB.


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Hey guys, reviving this thread.

Been a while since I've even thought about WD, and had kind of given up on the idea. In the meantime, I have been focusing on my mental health and my spiritual growth, strengthening my faith in God and working through some of my impulse control and depressive tendencies that come along with the diagnosis of bipolar dz.

In the process, I have been completely abstinent for 2 months to the day. It has been an awesome experience, though frustrating at times. We're all creatures of habit, and when we get conditioned to think that we depend on a manual release for our sanity, it can cloud the picture of what true personal satisfaction looks like. So over the last two months, I have learned what my triggers are, ways to tackle the thoughts that lead to physical temptation, and more about myself and what is important to me personally and in a potential partner. I've been able to seek out the counsel of close friends who are along the same journey, and grow in my walk with Jesus. That in itself has been all the affirmation I need that the last few weeks haven't been a waste.

However, a special gift "came" overnight in the form of an explosive WD, my first in a long time. I had actually taken a NyQuil last night since I've been feeling ill, so this was the first WD that I DIDN'T wake up during. Rather, I have a distinct memory of the climactic dream, and then woke up later to find a suspicious spot on my boxers/the bedsheets/the mattress cover. I had a full bladder when I got up, so I put 2 and 2 together. I've since washed everything but the mattress cover, so if there's any spot may take a picture (for those of you who are curious).

In any case, I am happy with the way things have gone for me over the last couple months, and am willing to share my experience with anyone who is wondering if it's worth it or has more question about my faith.

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 Post subject: Re: Wheelien's First Log
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Congratulations :)


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 Post subject: Re: Wheelien's First Log
PostPosted: Thu Feb 23, 2017 3:33 pm 
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haven't been able to sleep well this week, have an exam this weekend and stressed about that. raging boners daily but nothing out of the ordinary. i've sort of been watching more porn this week, which i think is bad. But old habits die hard. I guess day 66 of AB


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 Post subject: Re: Wheelien's First Log
PostPosted: Thu Feb 23, 2017 4:16 pm 
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Watching porn probably isn't helping but you've made it 66 days so whatever you're doing is working. :)


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 Post subject: Re: Wheelien's First Log
PostPosted: Fri Feb 24, 2017 12:28 am 
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wheelien wrote:
haven't been able to sleep well this week, have an exam this weekend and stressed about that. raging boners daily but nothing out of the ordinary. i've sort of been watching more porn this week, which i think is bad. But old habits die hard. I guess day 66 of AB

I find stress actually helps induce WDs. Not sure if it directly or fact it also affects quality of sleep.

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2017 MB=2, WD=28/29, SE=4
...last
WD 11/19
SE 7/14
MB 2/22
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2014- MB=24,WD=3,SE=15
2013- MB=30,WD=4,SE=17
2012- MB=33,WD=4,SE=9
2011- MB=40,WD=6,SE=14
<2010- lots of MB, no WD/SE
11-15Y-age,no MB -about WD 1-2 a week


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 Post subject: Re: Wheelien's First Log
PostPosted: Sun Feb 26, 2017 9:59 am 
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sort of broke my streak a few days ago. found myself really randy in bed and sort of dry humping the sheets. i did shoot, but i justified it with the fact that i didn't use my hands. in any case, i recognize that as a cognitive distortion. so I'm back on the wagon now.

I guess I'm at Day 3 now.

things have been pretty manageable, and on the plus I've found that turn-ons i used to take for granted when i watched porn regularly are more attractive to me now. Like a nice smile, soft hands, a flattering haircut. i don't think i'm any less horny, though i do recognize the thoughts when they come into my head as under my control. but i will say that I'm more appreciative of these features.

just passed a hurdle in school and will have a few days of break ahead, so i'm looking forward to unwinding, eating well, exercising, doing some things I've been putting off, and recharging. i find that i can feel much more virtuous and accomplished when I'm not MB or watching porn. Definitely excited about the near future.


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 Post subject: Re: Wheelien's First Log
PostPosted: Mon Mar 13, 2017 12:18 am 
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Date that you last had an orgasm/ejaculation.: 27 Feb 2017
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Hi there wheelies!

Good to see you trying again, keep it up! I'm working through something very very similar at the moment so pm if you're interested in chatting.


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 Post subject: Re: Wheelien's First Log
PostPosted: Mon Mar 13, 2017 5:46 am 
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Keep going :)


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 Post subject: Re: Wheelien's First Log
PostPosted: Sun Mar 19, 2017 4:22 am 
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On Day 18 or something like that. I don't really think about it much to be honest. After having gone 2 months of AB, the habit of MB is really gone. I feel like I'm able to at least register when the temptation comes into my mind and the rationalize that it's probably not the best thing for me.

My goal for this year was to remain celibate, which I am finding is tough to do. There are girls in my class who have been coming on to me and I'm not sure how to handle it. I respect them all, and don't want to date them and ruin our friendship. But there is an element of mutual attraction, at least between me and two of the girls in my class. I know it's not in my or their best interests, so I'm trying to keep my distance for now. Just never imagined this would be a challenge for me.


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 Post subject: Re: Wheelien's First Log
PostPosted: Mon Mar 27, 2017 12:24 am 
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If you've had a wet dream before, when did it occur after falling asleep?: 5-6 hours
Date that you last had an orgasm/ejaculation.: 29 Aug 2017
Sex: Male
Day 26 and things are going smoothly. I'm not really doing this for a WD, more for the "no fap" aspect. It's been good just relaxing and taking it easy after a stressful week. There has certainly been the thought of going for it and MB over the lazy weekend, but I've come to enjoy my solitary time in other ways. Got back to leisure reading, video games, baking, and some of my other hobbies. And when all else fails, reaching out to friends and just not spending too much time by myself. That seems to be an effective way to keep my mind off what's in my pants.


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 Post subject: Re: Wheelien's First Log
PostPosted: Mon Mar 27, 2017 10:42 pm 
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hey wheelien
:text-bravo:
26 days already :handgestures-thumbup: :happy-bouncygreen: :handgestures-thumbup:
good to see that you have found ways to keep you're hand off :handgestures-thumbup:
Stay strong, keep going, good luck :greetings-clappingyellow:


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