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PostPosted: Tue May 23, 2017 4:24 pm 
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Location: Lombard, IL
Age: 32
Number of wet dreams you've experienced: 1
Circumcised or Uncut?: Uncut (Intact)
Precum Production: Some Precum (2-4 drops before ejaculation)
Average time to orgasm/ejaculation normally: 5
Underwear worn when going to sleep.: Boxers
Have you ever had a spontaneous ejaculation?: no
If you've had a wet dream before, when did it occur after falling asleep?: N/A - Had a wet dream, but never woke up to see the time.
Date that you last had an orgasm/ejaculation.: 18 May 2017
Sex: Male
Hi, I'm Nathanael.

I've AB many times before for up to three weeks. I would lapse back into MB but try again months later because the idea of a WD or even just a nighttime erection that I don't do anything about is very exciting. The problem is I've couldn't wait it out and see what would happen. I want a sense of control, but that control comes at a cost: just wanting to MB more because I can't get that super aroused feeling again for at least several days. So I have to look for porn, which I never like to get that extreme with but I'm still frustrated because I don't feel that aroused by it and I'm straining sometimes to feel. Letting go of control over when I get aroused and when I ejaculate is itself arousing, but because I'm not sure I will eventually have a WD or SE if I AB for a long enough time there is a sense of what's the use in trying and I lose my excitement about it. However, in this attempt at AB to see how long I can go and see what happens, I have a few ideas about what will make this a more interesting journey.

I've thought about posting here before and am scared a little because of what might happen. I often feel obligated to live up to other people's expectations and the dependencies. If I feel like I can't do it I don't want to feel guilt or a failure. I know I don't have to commit to being on here and if I go back to MB then there's no real shame in doing so, it's what I really want to do. I also feel it's a little weird to talk to a bunch of people online about something I never talk to other people about, but maybe I need some company as I explore a part of my sexuality that I've never been able to fully push.

Lately, I decided to try AB again because I was watching porn and realized it may be more exciting to not touch my penis and only do kegels and see what would happen. I started doing some contractions and didn't feel much. As I started to become more erect I would feel the tip of my foreskin rubbing a little inside my boxers and against my pajama pants. It was a little feeling and I ended up with pre-cum, but not enough to make me get anywhere near cumming all the way. I decided maybe I would try doing kegels in the future while watching porn because it would let me focus more on what I was feeling in the moment both with the mental arousal while watching the porn and in the physical arousal I would experience in masturbation if I wasn't watching porn at the time. Just playing with the kegels made me think of trying to get better at them and maybe get better at using them as a way to get more aroused without porn. So I started doing some upon waking with MW during the night or when I'd get up in the morning. Since doing kegels is hands free I don't count them as MB. I started seeing how aroused I could get without masturbation and now I want to see how far I can take this.

I started thinking of AB differently, not as just not ejaculating by my own hand, but experience more hands free and porn free sexual stimulation. I also am thinking of allowing nighttime stimulation and not trying to avoid it, so I have a few ground rules I am following: (1) no touching my penis with my hands or anything else in anyway to cause sexual stimulation; (2) no trying to stop natural nighttime sexual stimulus and maybe even encourage it without breaking rule 1, they have to subside on their own and do whatever they do (no trying to find a less stimulating position if I'm conscious of it); (3) try to sleep or rest as much as I can through nighttime arousal; (4) no getting out of bed unless it is an emergency, if I have to pee I stay in bed until the alarm goes off and it is time to get out of bed unless I am imminently going to wet the bed; (5) if I can't sleep I am free to do kegels and focus on being aroused; and (6) I can wear whatever I want to bed (tight underwear, boxers, nude, jockstrap), but once I've put it on in the way I've put it on I can't take it off or adjust it unless it is causing a fair amount of pain.

So far, last night I fell asleep on the couch and woke up with an erection. I stayed slightly asleep and started doing kegels for a while, when I got up I felt a little wet stop on my boxers from the pre-cum. I moved to my bed eventually and when I woke up I did the same thing and had a long string of pre-cum dangling from my penis when I had a bowel movement in the restroom. So I think there may be some hope yet to explore what lies ahead of me in an exploration of long-term AB and seeing what my body does with it.

I'll come back here to give interesting updates as my journey continues and occasionally update an approximate time I've been ABing for.


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PostPosted: Tue May 23, 2017 7:53 pm 
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Joined: Thu Jul 28, 2016 11:06 pm
Posts: 782
Location: france
Age: 43
Number of wet dreams you've experienced: 6
Circumcised or Uncut?: Uncut (Intact)
Precum Production: Some Precum (2-4 drops before ejaculation)
Average time to orgasm/ejaculation normally: 5
Underwear worn when going to sleep.: Nude - no underwear
Have you ever had a spontaneous ejaculation?: no
If you've had a wet dream before, when did it occur after falling asleep?: 4-5 hours
Date that you last had an orgasm/ejaculation.: 16 Jun 2016
Sex: Male
hey Nathanael.
:text-welcomewave: :text-goodpost: :text-welcomewave:
Welcome to WDF, more exactly Welcome to WDF as an "active member" because it seems you're a member for a while,
but you took a step forward recently with your first post
, i hope we will have you around for a while, maybe up to your next WD. (not sure when you had your first ?)

Starting a journal in the Wet Dream Diaries, Logs and Journals section an post is good
i'm sure you will also get a lot of support from guys here if you're struggling or having doubts about quitting (either MB or AB).
Reading other guys Journal might helps also
If you need the chat room is open 24/7, a lot of good guy might help as well on any subject that's definitively a free speech place
every is welcome, and always happy to meet other forum's member.
Whenever you feel ready to go there you will be welcome
.... :teasing-blah: :teasing-blah:
To get to the chat ...just click on "Chat Room" in any page of the forum


last point
Hornyness can be enjoyable, for most of people WD are a way better orgasm than MB (we would probably not ABing for weeks of not)
So it's all about good feeling, joy, and pleasure So don't put too much pressure on you :banana-dance:


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PostPosted: Wed May 24, 2017 4:42 am 
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Joined: Sat Mar 06, 2010 12:00 am
Posts: 546
Location: Mid-Atlantic USA
Age: 28
Number of wet dreams you've experienced: 0
Circumcised or Uncut?: Circumcised (Cut)
Precum Production: Some Precum (2-4 drops before ejaculation)
Average time to orgasm/ejaculation normally: 1
Underwear worn when going to sleep.: Briefs
Have you ever had a spontaneous ejaculation?: yes
If you've had a wet dream before, when did it occur after falling asleep?: N/A - never had a wet dream before
Date that you last had an orgasm/ejaculation.: 13 Oct 2016
Sex: Male
Welcome to the forum. Be assured there is no shame in "failing". MB is an addiction that can be made to go into remission, but it may take a number of tries. I had some short, then longer runs before I made the commitment to never MB again. That was 222 day ago. So far I have not had a release of any kind since Oct 13, 2016. And I have never felt better.

I allow myself non-genital stimulation just before going to sleep at night. Usually I will have a very strong erection and will be horny. Just knowing that MB is not an option, allows me to enjoy the feeling and go to sleep. As stated by Charly in the previous post, being horny and full can be a very enjoyable feeling... not one that needs to be relieved.

Good luck, and don't underestimate your will power. Habits and addictions are hard to break, but in the end it's worth it.


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PostPosted: Wed May 24, 2017 10:41 am 
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Joined: Tue May 22, 2012 1:10 pm
Posts: 3
Location: Lombard, IL
Age: 32
Number of wet dreams you've experienced: 1
Circumcised or Uncut?: Uncut (Intact)
Precum Production: Some Precum (2-4 drops before ejaculation)
Average time to orgasm/ejaculation normally: 5
Underwear worn when going to sleep.: Boxers
Have you ever had a spontaneous ejaculation?: no
If you've had a wet dream before, when did it occur after falling asleep?: N/A - Had a wet dream, but never woke up to see the time.
Date that you last had an orgasm/ejaculation.: 18 May 2017
Sex: Male
charlythemoose wrote:
hey Nathanael.
:text-welcomewave: :text-goodpost: :text-welcomewave:
Welcome to WDF, more exactly Welcome to WDF as an "active member" because it seems you're a member for a while,
but you took a step forward recently with your first post
, i hope we will have you around for a while, maybe up to your next WD. (not sure when you had your first ?)

Starting a journal in the Wet Dream Diaries, Logs and Journals section an post is good
i'm sure you will also get a lot of support from guys here if you're struggling or having doubts about quitting (either MB or AB).
Reading other guys Journal might helps also
If you need the chat room is open 24/7, a lot of good guy might help as well on any subject that's definitively a free speech place
every is welcome, and always happy to meet other forum's member.
Whenever you feel ready to go there you will be welcome
.... :teasing-blah: :teasing-blah:
To get to the chat ...just click on "Chat Room" in any page of the forum


last point
Hornyness can be enjoyable, for most of people WD are a way better orgasm than MB (we would probably not ABing for weeks of not)
So it's all about good feeling, joy, and pleasure So don't put too much pressure on you :banana-dance:


Thank you for the welcome!

I remember wetting the bed once when I was too old to do so. I think that was possibly a WD around my pre-teen years, otherwise I've never had WD.


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PostPosted: Wed May 24, 2017 11:09 am 
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Joined: Tue May 22, 2012 1:10 pm
Posts: 3
Location: Lombard, IL
Age: 32
Number of wet dreams you've experienced: 1
Circumcised or Uncut?: Uncut (Intact)
Precum Production: Some Precum (2-4 drops before ejaculation)
Average time to orgasm/ejaculation normally: 5
Underwear worn when going to sleep.: Boxers
Have you ever had a spontaneous ejaculation?: no
If you've had a wet dream before, when did it occur after falling asleep?: N/A - Had a wet dream, but never woke up to see the time.
Date that you last had an orgasm/ejaculation.: 18 May 2017
Sex: Male
Slider wrote:
Welcome to the forum. Be assured there is no shame in "failing". MB is an addiction that can be made to go into remission, but it may take a number of tries. I had some short, then longer runs before I made the commitment to never MB again. That was 222 day ago. So far I have not had a release of any kind since Oct 13, 2016. And I have never felt better.

I allow myself non-genital stimulation just before going to sleep at night. Usually I will have a very strong erection and will be horny. Just knowing that MB is not an option, allows me to enjoy the feeling and go to sleep. As stated by Charly in the previous post, being horny and full can be a very enjoyable feeling... not one that needs to be relieved.

Good luck, and don't underestimate your will power. Habits and addictions are hard to break, but in the end it's worth it.


Thanks for the welcome!

Right now I'm at a stage where my brain is saying "I want to get off", but without MB I don't know how that is possible. In the past I would allow myself to MB to right before the point of no return and stop. I think that took the edge off and just led me back to MB again. Now, I really feel it in my brain and I remind myself that MB is not an option and I will have to explore how aroused I can get during the nighttime without consciously trying to. To me that means not even stimulating myself non-genitally, but we'll see. I'm exploring it, which is different than trying to work toward a goal. Right now I'm just trying to get used to not MB as my immediate thought when I feel horny and enjoy the ride.

I'm sure there will be a series of changes that occur in my habits and responses to various stimuli. Just going to take it one step at a time ;)


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