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Hey Squeeze,

I recommend this video to you and anybody else that feels like they are hooked on porn/masturbation. It's a TED talk about the effects of porn on your mind and body. It's a little long (16 minutes), but I found it very information and helpful and I don't even have much of a struggle with porn (praise the Lord for that). Anyway, watch it if you want. If not, that's okay too

http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=pl ... SF82AwSDiU

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Haven't updated this in a while! Am currently on day 3 of abstaining from MB. Fell into a mb/porn pit the other week. Must have jacked it like 4xs in one night, and 3xs the day before. I didn't even know I was still capable of that! Not a good choice on my part, but still kind of impressive in a way, haha

Anyway, I'm back on the abstain train. Haven't really felt horny at all these past few days (to be expected I guess), and just had a twinge of horniness a few minutes ago and already had a passing tempting thought to mb when I get home. So crazy!! What a whimp I can be! If it was a tinge of hunger, it would be less tempting to eat a snack. But the moment I feel even just a bit horny, my mind can already go there. I guess that just lets you know how addicted you are! How I have trained myself to give in so easily. It's a bit of a wake-up call, I hope. I want to have better self control than that. So, I thought I should write a log entry here to help make my abstaining intent official. My current (perhaps lofty) goal is to go two months w/out porn or mb. If I get a WD during that time, awesome, but that's not my goal, I'm abstaining either way, so help me God. If successful, it will be sort of a Christmas present to myself.

One experiment I am enacting is to take a prostate supplement to hopefully prevent me from getting an inflamed prostate during this long time of abstinence, since I imagine it will get a bit congested. That is one of the few real negative side effects you can go through during a long abstinence. I started taking it a few days ago, and so far, no problems; I think I can tell some bec I don't pee as well when it gets congested back there. It's a GNC product and has saw palmetto, pygeum extract, beta-systerol, etc. all good stuff to keep your prostate and urinary tract in top order. Will let you know how it goes as time goes on!

Two months? That's a great goal and I'm confident that you can knock that out of the park, big guy!

Well, didn't quite make it through my two months goal, Was doing good then fell into a MB pit with some porn in which I MB'd prolly 4 or 5 times in the course of a few days. I just realized I'm a "binge masterbator" (a new term?!?! Haha) but yeah, like a binge drinker I will abstain for a while, no problem, and then fall by masturbating several times in a row. Then I will be good for a while, then give in and look at a bunch of porn for a short period. This has been my pattern of late. So it's good that I at least recognize that now as a first step.

I made a new friend recently who is going to help keep me accountable with this and a few other areas. His advice with MB was to taper it off, like go 2 days, then 4, then a week, like that. That worked for him. He still mBs, but only once every couple of weeks or so and that's fine with him. But bec of my binge-like behavior with this, I'm thinking cold turkey is best for now, but if that doesn't work, then I'll try his method. My initial goal now then is two weeks with no porn or mb, and I'm already on day 3. Good thing is this is one friend who will definitely keep me accountable to the goals I set!

Have a great Thanksgiving holiday to my American friends! I am thankful for all of you and for this forum where we can be so honest abt these things and help ea other out.

You can do it, Squeeze! I've got every confidence in you!

I wish you all the best on reaching your goal, bro! You can do it!

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"Nothing ventured, nothing gained."

Ok, scratch the two week plan, I took my friend's advice and decided to try the taper off method. So, I MB'd once last night in bed, so i had gone 3 days w/out MB when i did it. No porn, but my thoughts weren't as clean as they should have been. I will work on that next time. Bit I just mB'd once, no binge, and I told myself I can MB once, no porn, again in 3 days, which will be Wednesday night. Then, I get to do it again, same rules, 5 days later, then a week after that, then 10 days after that, then two weeks after that. Just stretching it out a little further each time, so my mind and body can adjust more naturally. Not sure at that point if I want to try to go to three weeks or jump ahead to a month, but I'll figure that out when it gets closer.

We'll try this method and see if it works. Part of me thinks that if I have a scheduled time coming up, that may make it easier to not try and justify it before then one way or another. And also be strict w/not MBing multuple times. I only get one rub out, haha.

After I did it last night, I still got major wood throughout the night an this morning. Like almost painful. So I'm glad I intentionally limited it to once bec otherwise I know I would have indulged again. But because i didn't, I feel really good today: energized, kinda t-buzzed a little bit. This may be a good system! For me, it's about gaining a healthy sense of self control and cutting out the porn before it's about getting a WD. But hopefully I'll get to that as a more long term reward.
Thankful to be healthy and to getting healthier in this area of my life.

Will be following ya. I wanna see if it works or not(hopefully it'll work).

Best wishes!

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My Log: http://www.wetdreamforum.com/viewtopic.php?f=9&t=4792
My Guitar Works Topic: http://www.wetdreamforum.com/viewtopic.php?f=8&t=5325

Thanks, Overload! And thanks Eleazar and Kipman!

Ok, well, the night of my last post, like I said I was still really horny, I ended up giving in to MB after one thing led to another online. That was bad enough, but I then fell into my binge behavior again and MB'd two more times the next morning. Each time it was kind of instigated by porn. So, later that day I got up the courage to text my new accountability partner bec I decided that for accountability to work, I have to be 100% honest 100% of the time, otherwise I am wasting both my time and his. He said he was both proud of me for fessing up and disappointed for giving in so soon. He wondered if part of me was trying to test him a bit to see if he was actually going to follow through with keeping me accountable. I'm not sure, but part of me thinks that might be true, because a lot of guys will say they will be your accountability partner but then fall through. But it was definitely me not taking MY commitment seriously enough, and that is a real issue, and one that has hurt me a lot in the past. I can compartmentalize things really easily. So, anyway, even though he was going out of town soon, he said we should get together asap and so we did and we talked it out and stuff, and I set some new goals and signed a paper with my new commitments and he has a copy and is going to hold me to them.

What we decided would be a good rhythm for me right now is I get to MB once every 5 days, no porn. Once I get used to that, we will spread it out a little further. I decided later that since I am trying to start a new pattern, I need to do it in a new place, since I don't want to associate it with my old patterns. I usually do it in bed bef I sleep, but unlike a lot of guys, I almost never do it in the shower, even though that is a perfect, private, easy clean up, I have to be in there anyway kind of place, haha. So, I will be MBing in the shower only when I reach my 5 day release time, ha. Sorry for the TMI. But hey, you guys can help hold me to these new rules, too. my first time with this new plan will be on Monday. So far, so good. I've been pretty darn hands free and no porn. Another good thing abt the shower is I def can't look at porn there, ha! And I have roommates so I can't spend all day in there doing it, either. It's gonna be just a quick rub to clean out the pipes a bit and relieve some tension as I wean myself off of this habit. Not some drawn out lust and fantasy fest. Haha.

I wish you the best of luck and the greatest success, Squeeze.

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"Nothing ventured, nothing gained."

Thanks, Eleazar!

Well, I am feeling a bit horny but at that nice, manageable level, not the raging level yet at all. So, I decided to go a full week before I mb, which will be tomorrow. And then I will get 1 mb ea week for prolly a month and then reevaluate. Same plan with the shower and all, I'll prolly do it before I go to sleep.

Feelin' good. Have done a pretty good job at staying hands off and porn free all week, which definitely helps! Will try to keep that up the next few weeks.

Good luck bro! You got my support!

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My Log: http://www.wetdreamforum.com/viewtopic.php?f=9&t=4792
My Guitar Works Topic: http://www.wetdreamforum.com/viewtopic.php?f=8&t=5325

Thanks, Overload!

Well, Unlike last night, I had zero interest in masturbating today, so I decided to wait for a few more days, friday, before I do it. That would give me ten days. So, we'll see how I feel then, and hands off until then!

Day 9. Doing good, not feeling too horny but having good morning woods and I get semis more easily. Prostate are feeling a bit congested, just a bit. Tomorrow is the day I can do it again. Will wait 'till tomorrow to decide, but am not sure if I'm going to MB tomorrow or not. If I decide not to, I may push my next "ok to MB day" ahead either two more days, to day 12, or four more, to make it two weeks. Not sure, and I still might just MB once tomorrow. But part of me is scared that if I do MB at this stage in the game, I might open up pandora's box again. But the other part of me feels that scheduling it out like this will help retrain me to have self control with it, and not binge with it. So, I'm not sure yet which is best, but I'm leaning towards abstaining for a bot longer. In any case, I know that extending my abstinence goals in bite sized chunks is really helpful to me.

Any advice, guys?

If you have a worry about opening the Pandora's box again, I recommend you to reschedule your MB day, cause the bad thoughts won't leave you as long as you have that worry inside.

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Sorry if I made grammar or expression mistakes.
My Log: http://www.wetdreamforum.com/viewtopic.php?f=9&t=4792
My Guitar Works Topic: http://www.wetdreamforum.com/viewtopic.php?f=8&t=5325

Keep going strong squeeze,I will be praying for you,and keep in mind that God`s watching down and he wouldn`t want to see you PMO for sure .....and......p.s: thank you for your positive attitude it has really helped me when I was down and blessings,cheers!

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If everybody does it, something`s wrong with it

Thanks, believer, I just read this. Well, I did PMO last night, two days bef I was supposed to MB, with the addition of P.

Well, at least I didn't return to my MB binge behavior so far and I lasted 11 days PMO free. Hope to make it the full two weeks this time!

Of course!Go for two weeks.Try to block porn,leave home when you are alone,etc...And if you reach 14 days,I am sure you will,just say to yourself,do I really need to PMO? or do I have better things to do?...you will surely have and when you cross that treshold, you will realize you won`t be pulled into MB or porn so much...p.s.: WDs are amazing man and wayy better than PMO .GOGOGO!

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If everybody does it, something`s wrong with it

Hey Squeeze

Not happy to hear about your recent bust. I also succumbed to P. I'm on day 02 now also aiming for two weeks.

Good luck, bro.

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"Nothing ventured, nothing gained."

So I am on Day 5 right now of no MB. Since I have had such a spotty record with this issue, I basically asked my accountability partner to assign for me when my "OK to Mb" days are. He said ok, that is a good idea for now. So, from when we decided this, he said no MB for five days, which will be this Saturday. The last time I mb'd all the way though, was before that, so this sat will actually make it a week.

I lasted 11 days last time; I had had shorter goals that i had made, and then decided to stretch them out longer, like, ok, I made it this far, I feel ok, let's go for three more days and then I can MB once if I want to...I was successful for ten days so I decided to make it two full weeks. But on day 11 I made a really poor choice and looked at some porn clips (which was also forbidden), and gave into MB.

So, I fessed up to my accountability partner and that's when I said, you decide my schedule for now. He said he was proud of me for being honest, and said it is really great that I went for 11 days, but the thing is when I make a commitment, even if it to extend an abstinence period, I need to commit to that 100%. Otherwise, I will justify slipping up in other areas, too. He is right, bec I do that a lot.

He often comes up with consequences when I slip up with goals, which actually helps a lot to reinforce that I am being serious about this. He is pretty creative with them, ha. Like this time I had to write three essays on goals and why I want to quit this and all. He also made me go to bed early, ha. And to help me out, I am not allowed to look at or touch my penis for these five days!! Even when changing or peeing or taking a shower, I have to keep my eyes up. I can only touch it real quick to clean it in the shower, but that's it. That has been a challenge, but it hasn't been too hard, though I did accidently look at it a couple of times before I caught myself, haha. He has done this all himself before, and it helped him to gain control in this area. So, I don't mind him being tough on me. So far, so good!

You can do it, man! I've got confidence in you!

Squeeze man if you abstain from MB you will find it easier to quit watching porn and vice-versa,good luck!

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If everybody does it, something`s wrong with it

So, I made it the ten days and had my scheduled MB that night in the shower, as planned. I was looking forward to it, but was also concerned abt not lusting so I prayed abt that. I figured some music would help and also muffle any additional sounds I might make in the shower in case my roomie was nearby, ha. I played a Josh Turner song I really like abt a guy who can't wait to get home to his wife and make some sweet love to her, ha. I kind of imagined I was in the same boat and that was my mental fuel, ha. But when the song ended I still wasn't done MB and my iTunes played some old, really slow depressing country song and well, that kind of killed my sexy mojo, ha.

Plus, for whatever reason I still wasn't that horny and so my MB still didn't feel that great, but then all of a sudden I felt like my eqpt was priming to go and I decided to just relax and not extend it out, and to my suprise, I came really quickly. But even that wasn't anything special. So, too bad I didn't enjoy it more since I won't be able to do it again for ten more days, but it was probably good that it was all very lackustre bec then it's less tempting to repeat it when I'm not supposed to, ha. Plus I feel like I stayed away from inappropriate thoughts.

So now it's been two days since then and man, I am super horny today!! Like that deep within you kind of horniness. Didn't help that I was catting with a friend for a while on IM earlier and we were talking abt a lot of sexual stuff, ha. But I'm still glad I had that convo with him bec he gave me some helpful info.

I think I'll be ok but I'm gonna have to be careful. My accountability partner already has me on a don't look or touch as much as possible, so that def helps. Plus, self control isn't something that's given to you, it is earned, it is fought for. Keeping God at my center and keeping friends at my side and keeping my goal before me, I CAN do this!

And so can you, my brothers!

You can do it, Squeeze, you can keep that fire at bay!

Doing an awesome job!

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"It's trust and character I need around me. You know, who you choose to be around you lets you know who you are. One car in exchange for knowing what a man's made of? That's a price I can live with." ~Han, Fast and Furious

Keep trying, Squeeze. You can do it and it is great having an accountability partner for AB. I made my younger brother my own accountability pal...for porn. It is great to have a good friend or family member you can count on.

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JOINED WD FORUM - July 6, 2011
LONGEST AB ATTEMPT SINCE JOINING - 43 days
DAYS SINCE LAST MASTURBATING - 1 days

Current Challenge - no MB Challenge for December

Hey, all -- Gonna do NoFap starting tomorrow, May 1st.

Initial goal is 30 days, the whole month. No PMO.

I'm back in the saddle! Day 6 !!

GREAT! Welcome back!