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I've been being bullied in college and I don't know what to do. I'm a freshman so I don't have many friends and a lot of the ones I thought I did have turned against me and pick on me like the rest of them. I know some kids pick with me because of my hearing aids and I'm fairly used to that but I have no clue why the others pick on me. A few days ago I got beat up by a girl and I'm afraid to report it because 1) I don't want to admit that 2) I'm uncomfortable telling the story and 3) I'm afraid she'll flip the story and make it seem like it was self defense on her part. What should I do? How do I stop them? Is this really what it's like to be an adult, that I just have to learn to put up with bullshit? I thought everyone was more mature in college.

From what I remember about college is that most people in the sciences are nerds and enjoy any companionship they can get. They may not be civilized, but are civil most of the time. Handicaps are not a problem, and most people enjoy your brain rather than abnormalities, so there must be something else about you that others are abusing you. Talk with your advisor or other school officials. They are professional people who can advise you. You should report all abuse- no exception. School psycologists are very helpful. I saw a psychologist after a minor run in with the law, and while doing so, I was able to do a citizen's arrest rather than put up with lawlessness in our neighborhood, something I would have never done before this.

At work, one of the scientists was deaf and only communicated by sign language. I would have enjoyed communicating with him, but didn't have a way and he never seemed interested in me. So he was a stranger to me, not that I had anything against him.

A good friend has gone deaf (age related) and he does tend to shun people and is depressed and withdrawn due to his inability to make meaningful communication with his friends.

One of the techniques I used to let other people know that I was open to communication was to look them straight in the eye as they passed. Some returned the look and we could say "Hi" or whatever, but when they didn 't return the eye contact, I figured they were disinterested. Looking people in the eye was difficult for me, but I try to do it as much as I can. So, taking the initiative in communication worked well for me. I could do it no matter who they were or how high in whatever ranking system was used. It helped reduce my nerdism and make me more open to others.

Perhaps a friendly greeting when you pass others would help your situation. Just today, I spoke with 5 total strangers and got to know something about them while I was on a bicycle ride. "Hey, is this an old mens bike group or can others fit in. I think I am older than all of you." Well they just had to ask how old are you. . . All this by looking and asking stupid questions which gave them a laugh.

Take yourself to someone who can help you. It really helps!

Fred

...always remember who you were before they bullied you.

Assault and harassment are illegal. Those who are bullied can take legal action by reporting it to the school authorities. It is the responsibility of school admins to make sure that schools are safe and conducive to learning.

Patience is the key.............